Who would ever thought that at the age of 26 years, 5 1/2 months, I am already a wife to someone. And I would be the first person to scream "I can't believe this!!".
Well yes, this is what we called The Power of Kun Fayakun.
To be truth, I don't really know where, when and how exactly the story of Mr. Amir and Mrs. Amrien begins. Things happened so fast that I didn't expect that we would end up being together. I believe, this is what we called Jodoh.
And if I would keep this blog as my treasure in the future, I think I shall remember all these moments.....
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May 2012
He send his first text to me, asking if "we" could be friends. My reply was simple and straight: "Well yes, if you have the intention of getting married to me". (read: He actually got my number from a colleague of mine who was actually his secondary school teacher years ago). The reason I responded to his text was simply because at that time, I think, maybe I should make some efforts in relation to this Jodoh thingy. There's no harm trying anyway aite.
Since then, we exchanged few texts. This was the phase where I got to know some background info about him; i.e. that he's from Dengkil (dekat la dengan rumah), that he's a Javanese (hmm...confirm mak suka), that some of his relatives live in the same village as mine (hmm...interesting).
He did call once, which I insensibly answered on my way to bus terminal. There's also this one time when he intend to meet me face-to-face at the airport. But the mission failed because I was not ready to meet him at that time.
And those were the things happening during the first two-three months of our friendship.
And I wasn't happy with it. I suddenly feel that whatever I did was actually against my principles.
And it's during Ramadhan last year if I am not mistaken that I decided not to communicate with him the way we used to. I told him if he wanted to know more about me, he could use e-mails. That would make things appeared more professional, less personal and thus makes me feel better. But, he didn't favor that.
Finally, I told him, if he seriously wanted to know me better, then just come to my house and pay us a visit during raya. He replied, "insyaAllah" and in my heart I said "tak payahlah".
*****************************************************23rd August 2012 (Eidul Fitr)
He did his first visit to my house, visiting my parents, all by himself. Homaigad, it's our very first face-to-face interaction, in front of my parents. And this was when we got to know more about his background.
My parents claimed that they had no problems accepting him. So, the decision is 100% on me. And I was like "duhhh@#$%^&". I was so indecisive at that time, not knowing what I really want in life.
He still texted me. Which made me feel bad responding. And that was when Fatimah Syarha's video on youtube "taught" me something about 'jodoh'.
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7th September 2012
I send my first email to him, telling him straight what I feel and how I wanted things to be done. Though it killed my pride and ego to have written such piece, I still did that. Never in my life I've been so brave. Never in my life I was very clear with what I want.
He responded to my e-mail. Saying he wanted to proceed. Me? Ok, fine!!
So, we exchanged few emails then, mostly about views on things, believes and principles in life. I know at times, my emails to him sounded bitter (read: he even claimed that). But I constantly reminded myself that I have to be strict when it comes to things like this. I should filter things so that whatever my decision is in the future would not be influenced by what I feel, but what is right to be done.
And I decided that we should get to know family members before we proceed. I would wanr to see if things went well this time.
*****************************************************22nd October 2012
I send my so-called "CV" to him (as an indirect way of asking if I can get his).
And I did!!.
He send his "CV" and this is when I know what his full name is, d.o.b, occupation, list of schools... yadda yadda yadda.
And I know it sounded "#$%^&*" but I choose to do it that way. Any problem with that? heh~
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26th October 2012 (Eidul Adha)
As promised, he came to my house for the second time. This time, he brought his mother and siblings along. This is more a less like raya visit. To mengeratkan silaturrahim so to say.
I have set things very clearly in my mind:
...that I have no intention at all to please him or his family during their visit.
...that I should just be myself, telling them clearly what I can and cannot do.
And when they went back home, I consulted my parents again, seeking clarification from them if I should proceed with this guy or not.
For me, if they say "yes", then i'll just give it a go. If it is a "no", I surrender.
and I shall never forget this line, uttered by Abah, "dah nak yang macamana lagi?"
That night, he texted me, telling if he wanted to proceed with the wedding proposal.
And I was like, "well, ok then" (but in my heart, I screamed: "as easy as that, Amrien?????")
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23rd November 2012
I drafted a wedding plan for him. homaigad, I feel so like "isteri cerdik yang solehah" at that time.
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28th November 2012
We discussed our wedding on the phone. I was at Bukit Gambang Resort City at that moment, attending a course.
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1st December 2012
Our first outing together with his mother and his sisters, getting the rings and wedding-dress materials ready. homaigad, giler tak nervous. It's our 'first date' and we already bought things for our 'big day'. But well, I was a good actress so to say!! I managed to hide my feelings in front of them though I can't remember how many times I slapped my face in the toilet (facepalm).
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8th &9th December 2012
I attended Kursus Pra Perkahwinan at PAID, Sg. Manggis
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8th December 2012 (night)
His family came for merisik-cum-engagement. The date was set.
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15th December 2012
He came to my house and we went to the Tailor.
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March 2013
He came to my house to settle the ring and Baju Melayu issue.
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2nd June 2013
Our solemnization day. We are officially husband-and-wife today. Alhamdulillah~
to be continued~
1 comments:
homaigaddd...sweetnye! *pengsan*
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